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Making the transition from high school to college brings with it many challenges and opportunities…it is a time for changes, growth and reflection.  Below you will find information about:

Understanding the Transition Year 

The transition from high school to college marks an important milestone along the path from adolescence to adulthood. It's a big step for students and their families. Your child is exploring fuller independence and, the nature of your relationship is also changing. How much support does your son or daughter need? How will you communicate once they are gone? When will you know it's time to step in and help? Everyone needs time to adjust to find out how to support your child’s mental and emotional needs through the transition year

Often overlooked is the fact that the college experience is a significant transition for the parents of college students. As parents, you may experience feelings of happiness, excitement, and pride when your children leave for college. At the same time, you may feel a sense of sadness and pain and have many understandable fears and concerns about your children’s future and well-being. You may worry about your children’s safety and ability to care effectively for themselves. You may fear “losing” your children as they begin to function more independently and forms deep attachments with peers. You may be concerned about how your children will deal with choices and temptations they face. You may also wonder how your children’s performance in college will reflect on you as the parent.

Here are some ways you might support your children:

  • Although your children want and need to become more autonomous during this period, it is important for them to know you are still available. Maintaining a supportive relationship with them can be critical, particularly during their first year of college. If you and your children were not particularly close prior to their leaving home, it is still important for you to convey your support. You may be surprised to find that some space and distance from your children can help improve your relationship. 
  • It is important to maintain regular contact with your children, but also to allow space for your children to approach you and set the agenda for some of your conversations. Let your children know that you respect and support their right to make independent decisions and that you will serve as an advocate and an advisor when asked. Finally, recognize that it is normal for your children to seek your help one day and reject it the next. Such behavior can be confusing and exhausting for parents, so make sure to take care of yourself by talking about your feelings with your own support system.
  • Be realistic and specific with your children about financial issues, including what you will and will not pay for, as well as your expectations for how they will spend money.
  • It is also important to be realistic about your children's academic performance, recognizing that not every straight-A student in high school will be a straight-A student in college. Help your children set reasonable academic goals; and encourage them to seek academic assistance when needed.  The Student Success Center offers academic support and coaching to all CTX students.
  • The fact that your children have left home does not necessarily prevent family problems from arising or continuing. Refrain from burdening your children with problems from home that they have no control over. Sharing these problems with your children may cause them to worry excessively and even feel guilty that they are away from home and unable to help.

 

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Services Provided by CTX Counseling Center 

CTX Counseling Services provides free confidential service for enrolled students, including brief individual, walk-in consultations; and psycho-educational outreach programming.

Students may seek counseling for a variety of reasons, including relationship concerns, difficulties with roommates, isolation, loneliness, emotional stress including depression and anxiety, disordered eating, and identity issues.  Typically these issues are related to the adjustment and students will recover quickly; however if the intensity persists and makes it difficult for your student to function effectively, or if your student is experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, it is recommended to encourage your student to come to Counseling Services immediately.  It is more effective if your student takes the initiative in accessing services-your son or daughter may be less likely to follow through if you make the appointment for them.

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CTX Counseling Center as a Resource for Parents

Counseling Services provides consultations to parents concerned about their students. Such consultations can focus on a range of issues, including how to assist a student experiencing a difficult situation, how to refer a student to services, or how to locate appropriate mental health treatment for student. To secure a consultation, call Counseling Services at 512-331-5032.  The counselor will not acknowledge or discuss treatment of your student unless your student has given written consent to do so.

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Confidentiality and Parents

Confidentiality is essential to the process of counseling.  Counseling staff are required to adhere to the ethical standards of their profession and to state and federal laws relating to confidentiality.  These standards prevent us from speaking with concerned parents about their students contact with Counseling Services unless we have the student’s written consent.  Unless your student gives us written consent we cannot acknowledge whether your student has been seen or is making progress in counseling.  The only exceptions occur when a student is clearly and imminently suicidal or homicidal, when we learn of ongoing child abuse, or when we are ordered to release confidential information by a court of law.

Please contact Annie Ferrera if you have any questions. 512-331-5032 or ann-marie.ferrera@concordia.edu

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Other Helpful Resources

Please feel free to select the links below to familiarize yourself with the helpful services and activities that you and your students will be involved with or will utilize.

First Year Experience

Student Success Center

Career Services

Student Life

Student Financial Services

CTX Police

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*Used by permission from Abilene Christian University’s Counseling Center

 

This page was last updated on Aug. 09, 2012.
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